grab,i'm offended.
i was trained classically. i loved it. i am learning folk. i love it.
i know an awful lot of classical players who can hear chords and who can play marvellously well 'by ear'. just because someone can read music really well doesn't mean they can't also interpret it very well.
please don't let your bad personal experiences mean that you will write off a huge segment of inspired, talented, creative, and genuine musicians, just because they don't do it the same way you do.
~black walnut