Ah, yes, but at the heart of every @$$hole is a worthy soul trying desperately to somehow get loose from the grip of the outward personality. ;-)

Consider, for example, the obnoxious life insurance salesman, "Ned Ryerson" in the movie "Groundhog Day"....an utterly classic asshole! (grin) When "Phil", the deeply cynical and jaded weatherman, finally became enlightened, he learned how to show compassion and kindness even to that guy...with interesting results. I think people's main problem...perhaps their only real problem...is their fear, and an "asshole" is always someone with some kind of underlying fear that throws him off balance and makes him act...like an asshole.

Then too, there are some people you'll probably never get along with, because their approach is like oil to your water. I know I've encountered people like that. It's a major challenge to turn something like that positive...sometimes a challenge that doesn't seem worth it, I'll admit.

I had an uncle whom I was quite happy not to have to see at any given time. He was an ****ASSHOLE******** par excellence!!! He could have chaired a show for celebrity assholes, in all probability, and been elected chairman for life.