So virtual (mudcat) verbal intercourse is Emotionaly difficult for you and other people of color. Good! Very GOOD!

All interaction is emotionally difficult if not right up in your face challenging.

I can recall many accusations leveled against me on mudcat.
At one point it became so vicious that communicating in pictures and cartoons was a better alternative compared to the ad hominim attacks that followed my written word.

If it is uncomfortable, you are probably telling a truth that needs to be told. Just don't expect to be believed.
When you tell the unvarnished truth it will usually seem completely fictional to other people.

If you are uncomfortable listening to others there is probably a knowledge gap that requires some sort of bridge. A bridge to hate however is a bridge to no where.

Do haters ever change? Maybe. I heard only a couple people in my life claim they have overcome early childhood learned predjudice.
Maybe the hater changes an intellectual point of view but never the emotional or vice versa.
I just wouldn't want to wait around for the change to take hold.

WHat I am sure of is that the same people who called me a niggar lover when I was 11 are the same people who say there is no hope for me if I complement French health care or merely listen to the BBC rather than FOX.

Haters as a rule won't be changed until an undeniable life changing event changes them.