I certainly think it could be a dilemma, especially when people say something, intentionally or innocently, that is offensive. I would feel obliged to respond quickly and then having made my statement not feel compelled to ride it to the bitter end. Lots of short definitive statements over the course of time add up. And I think it is highly important to learn about the rich African, African-American, Jamacain..many other places..Creole..heritage, folklore, music. I also think there are many people in these groups who are somehow shamed into not liking certain types of music, dance, etc. because there is group pressure on them. That is not right. There are undoubtedly African Americans who love to polka and sing barber shop and watch Lawrence Welk reruns, and love the guy there that tap danced and was so soundly called names for doing that. It is all important so keep on doing it and others will follow. mg