Bert, I don't follow you. What on earth would make you think I would tell a 7 year old kid whose mother had died that "God did it"?

I don't think of God as doing things to people. I don't think of God as an exterior agent, you see. I think of people as being in charge of their own destiny, within the limitations of their own awareness and their innate abilities....and, of course, they are often affected by other people too, and by situations around them.

We cannot guarantee that "bad" things won't happen to us or to someone else, but if they do it isn't because "God did it". Not in my opinion, anyway. There are many things that happen where it is impossible or downright irrational to assign blame to anyone...specially to God, of all things!