Melissa

Thanks very much for your thoughtful answer, apology accepted! and appreciated, cos not many people here do step back from what they've said and apologise if they feel that's right.

I'm sorry if my reply came across as dismissive, that's not how I intended it at all. I sometimes say things online very concisely (I enjoy brevity and can be impatient with waffle) and perhaps it can come across as abrupt.

I don't think I'm ever spiteful. I sometimes tease, and I have to be careful with that, as that can be taken wrongly. I do occasionally have a merciless dig back at people who are rude to me without cause (but I wouldn't even call that spite).

Sue