What would any man have on their headstone?
As you are dear at the time it is NOT your headstone.
BUT perhaps when living, at least the words could be picked to be later chiseled in the stone, so after some thought, I write my own inscription.
No matter if it's never carved, I'll be dead and past careing.
Spider Tom.

I dreamed,
To cheat my Death,
But Death,
It holds the winning hand.
I never tried,
To cheat at Life,
Yet Life,
It turns you back to sand,
I clutched the straws,
I sung each breath,
I lived my life,
And nothing less.