BUT!
leaving aside who DID what and to who where do we go from here?

There is hope from within from movements like Ta'ayush ("living together"), an Israeli-Palestinian grassroots movement against Israeli military occupation of Palestinian land.

Prof. Gadi Algazi, a co founder of the movement (who spent 10 months in a military prison before he was released as a result of public outcry) has observed the Israeli tower-and-stockade surveillance is strangling Palestinians living in the so-called "Seam Zone." This is the confiscated area between the Israeli side of the wall and the Green Line.

He points out that most of the 12,000 Palestinians living in this no-man's-land are 1948 refugees and their descendants, who have no access to schools, clinics or markets. They must apply for permission to remain in their unrecognized villages, which receive no electricity or water.

"The apartheid system thrives on details," he stressed. "Exhaustive forms must be filled out by everyone over age 12. They ask such intrusive questions as what do you study, who is your teacher, why do you want to sleep in your village?"

"The Wall has created the world's largest open air prison without guards," Algazi noted.

Washington Report on Middle East Affairs, April 2004,

Three times the height of the Berlin Wall and proposed to run the eqivalent of london to Zurich!

meanwhile..... Prime Minister Ehud Olmert has stated

I will not agree to accept any kind of Israeli responsibility for the refugees. Full stop."
Then he added: "I don't think we should accept any kind of responsibility for the creation of this problem. Full stop."

He said the return of even one Palestinian refugee to Israel was "out of the question."

quoted in 2007

How to reconcile the irreconcilable - where to start.....?