bbc, should there be taboo topics among people who share their interest in music? I believe in the wisdom of some kind of the opposite. If there is anything touching you and you want to know how others think about it - first try to talk to people who are similar to you than to so-called or even real experts who know absolutely nothing of how you are, how you feel... who simply are too different from you. The reason for that is simple: you are much more likely to understand the answers. And once you have, you will be MUCH smarter, i.e. smart enough to understand what people are saying who do not share anything with you. My own experience is that there are many, many people of that kind, and I am not always able to step aside when I hear them coming.