With that one post you have made me regret my harsh words.
I respect your honesty.
Let me make it clear that I still absolutely abhor your comments on blacks.
But I have an understanding of why you make them.
I understand what a crazy tenuous existence your race is experiencing.
Brought up to hold the views you espoused earlier in the thread, you have suddenly seen "normality" turned on its head.
And in the process you have found yourselves very vulnerable.
You are African.
Of that there is no doubt.
but your tenure on africa is growing weaker by the day.
And you can't go "back" to europe, because you aren't european.
You too are victims of the legacy of apartheid.
The challenge you need to overcome is to realise that Apartheid has ultimately betrayed you and that your forefathers ultimately left you in the s**t by not finding a way of developing a more democratic system of government.
Once you realise that and come to terms with the fact that your unfounded inherited understanding of blacks is wrong, you may be able to try the next stage of reconciliation which will involve working with rather than despite your Black African brothers.
I grew up in Hong Kong when it was a British colony.
It was an efffectively segregated society too.
I left in 1991.
It was my childhood home for 15 years.
I will never live there again unless you count the odd 2 week stay as a tourist.
It's not easy when you are a foreigner everywhere.
But the world changes and in this case it really was for the better.
It will be a messy process, but attitudes about racial stereotypes will only serve as obstacles and enflame resentments further.