I'm not going to attempt deal with your eternal straw men & women, half-truths, innuendo, idiotic comments RE: Ms Goodwin & your popular agent provocateur act. Nor will I attempt to refute a load of Neo-Confederate websites & their attendant bullshit.
Life's too damn short to try to educate someone who has decided beforehand that they will not be educated. Those more concerned with having the last word and riding a personal hobbyhorse than historical accuracy will embrace their ignorance all the more strongly- and I say let them.
Anyone can decide ahead of time to make a claim, however preposterous, that they want to "prove" and then cherry-pick extracts sources, one-liners, quotes taken out of context & etc. that appear to support their thesis. However, that's not how accurate history is produced- but is an example of the "junk science" method so beloved of propagandists, charlatans, demagogues, and bigots.
I would recommend several books on historiography & the historical method, but its evident there is no point in so doing.
I will, however, briefly comment on Civil War (or any other war) "re-enactment" groups. These consist a bunch of presumably adult men and women who like to dress up and pretend to be mid-ninetheenth century military personnel (with cell phones, beer coolers, air-conditioned vehicles & all mod cons, of course). Most children tire of playing cowboys and Indians by the age of ten or eleven, but let that pass. They claim to "accurately portray" or "recreate" the life of the soldier and to "re-enact" battles and military engagements - without the inconveniences of inadequate & rancid provisions, marching 20+ miles a day inhundred degree heat on dust-choked roads, insufficient shelter from the elements, epidemic disease (dysentery, smallpox, typhoid, typhus & sall the other favorites), venereal disease ( well, perhaps they may have this), poor to non-existent medical care, no regular ambulance service, horrific wounds, pus, blood, pain, amputation and row upon row of thousands of bloated, blackening, stinking corpses being eaten by hogs as they wait weeks for burial, hospitals full of wounded men slowly dying over the course of weeks or months from sepsis, gangrene or consumption or dying in military prisons - - - to name but a few. These groups tend to have have something of a credibility probem.
I'm outa here for now. Until the inevitable next Sambo thread. If you want to view this as a victory, by all means do so. It is, of course- a triumph of inconquearble ignorance over enlightenment.