ABC's solution would only be approriate if the "otherwise loving, caring member of my family" were hardiman's wife/lover/girlfriend/S.O. Were it his mother, daughter or aunt things might get a little tricky.

Personally I figure listening to my husband practicing bagpipes (in the basement) or fiddle is fair payment for him hearing me practice guitar or recorder. Sometimes I have to fight the urge to turn the radio on when he's playing but mostly we stay apart until requested to join in. He's never yet asked me to jam along with pipes though...