Some people get stuck in situations thay have no control over - family responsibilities and the like.

You do the best you can with your life. No one intentionally screws up everything. even the village drunk thinks its the best accomodation of the facts of his life that he can manage.

you know what Jesus said - Judge not lest ye be judged.

that's the toughest commandment in my book Teribus, but its a goodie! makes you think!