Well, maybe we have a problem in conflicting metaphors or something, Sawz. If you post something that looks hateful to me and I say so, you argue I am being a controlling a-hole. Maybe it is the case that (a) you didn't mean to sound hateful and thought you sounded normal, or funny, or something or (b) you want unilateral priveleges of being hateful.

It makes sense to me you would not see yourself as hateful so I can also understand why it might upset you if someone else says you are. I can see that, and I did not take it into account in our earlier little contretemps.

At the same time, you would be well served to ask why your posts seem to others more hateful than you mean them to be, if that is the case. If you are trying to communicate a point of view, there is a question of how to do it so you get understood instead of misunderestimated.

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