I have heard a lot of it but more is always welcome (see, I couldn't stay away!)...

Also, I talked to a "professional" today and that helped a lot. One thing they pointed out to me is that the reason I keep having this pain in my chest is that I'm forgetting to breathe, apparently a common symptom of emotional distress. If I take a deep breath as soon as the pain starts it does stop so they were right, and that already leaves me feeling less anguished as I don't have that squeezing feeling in my chest. I had gotten into some kind of negative feedback loop, where I felt bad so I didn't breathe so I hurt so I felt worse... (The Chinese medical theories hold that depression/sadness goes to the lungs, makes sense to me).
So, keep the good words and songs coming, I sang a bunch of Cat Stevens today, Lisa Lisa, sad Lisa Lisa, and every Cynthia Gooding I could remember about maidens weeping, of which there are many...