Yes, I did ask this question anonymously at first because I didn't want to reveal that about half the people answering another question of mine had made an incorrect assumption about me that I hadn't corrected because it didn't matter, at least not to me. It doesn't make sense to ask Should I correct these errors in the same sentence that reveals the error, right?

And it is because I don't care what people think I am, most of the time, unless there is a possible mating ritual involved, that I didn't feel the urge to "come out" since it is INTERESTING to me what people assume, and how their answers differ based on those assumptions. Also, I don't know jack about security and protecting my hard drive from hackers and so on, so I do feel "safer" the less people know about me individually. I don't care if I bare my soul in threads that would tell people what kind of thoughts I have or what I find important and so on, my opinions on things, but I don't see the need for them to know that these thoughts are being voiced by a woman or a man, or what race I am, or what my sexual and erotic orientations are, or how tall I am or how much I weigh or anything else NOT GERMANE TO THE DISCUSSION.

I also wish that these categorizations were less important to ANYONE outside of mating, which is the one place that you are allowed to have preferences that aren't bigoted, like only women, or no Asians, or whatever. It isn't sexist to be heterosexual, but it is to care if it's a woman or a man who just said they like k d lang. Or whatever. BUT the reason I asked if this was rude is that someone (someone I like, that is) was embarrassed that they jumped to an incorrect conclusion and thought they'd offended me. I wouldn't have minded them being embarrassed, after all, incorrect conclusions can be embarrassing but you learn from them, but I didn't want them thinking they'd offended me. And I wasn't sure how to reassure them without getting into what I didn't want to get into, if that makes sense.