From an article I read in The Toronto Star (June 11)
Some tips for marring a Musician & Staying Married:

1) Face facts: Your parents won't be happy about this, no matter how old you are, how nice he is or how insistent he may be about loving you.

2) Brace yourself for your firends' responses, not just your parents'. Some friends will be supportive and shut up, but most will think you've taken leave of your senses.

3) The women. Scores and scores of women, all of whom want to "get their propers," with your man. This is particularly true of (in descending order of desirability) singers/guitar players, drummers and piano players. There is often less to worry about if your guy plays bass, especially the standup bass. Most bassmen go quietly about their business, contributing some harmonies and staying out of the limelight.

4) Take up lots of hobbies. He is not the only one who will get lonely and bored when he is on the road.

5) Spend a week by yourself on a sunny beach in the middle of winter, preferably in mid-February. These are the cruelest months for musicians; nobody is hiring bands becasue all the bars are empty after the new year. Your hubby will be in the depths of despair, howling at the gods because he is under-appreciated, under the financial gun and out of ideas for new songs. Sympathize for precisely five weeks, then turn tail and run. His "black dog," of depression that overcomes all artists at one time or another, will vanish with the first whiff of spring air.

6) The old joke, "How many children do you have that you know of?" must be addressed.

7) Become good friends with the other band wives, if you can. It is great to have someone in the same spot to share your woes, concerns and joys, to say nothing of having company when you go to his gigs.

8) Most important, know well ahead of the wedding day what you are in for.

Bonnie