When my friend Joan lost her daughter to suicide I sent her a tape of Gordon Bok's Turning Toward the Morning. When Bok sings the chorus, "Oh my Joanie don't you know..." in that rich mellow voice of his it is like soothing honey to the heart. My friend Henry sang at my husband's funeral in 1982, "If I were a Troubador." Another song which could be just right for someone is "Fiddler's Green." There is a new recording called "Before Their Time" (CD and Casette) with many of the songs listed here on it. Heard about it on Traditions (WFDU 89.1). Ron Olesko might know the source of the recording. I've sent for it and lost the URL on which it is featured.