There y'll go again, assuming something of which you have no idea. You assume that harpgirl has "baggage" issues and that's the reason she wants to have a women's hearme, instead of assuming her intention was simply to get a group of like-minded women together to exchange ideas. Gosh, from reading the above, I could assume that it is Amerigin and Shambles who are toting around baggage. But it wouldn't be right for me to say that because I don't know them at all and my statement would be pure assumption ... moonchild