Re equipment: I used to work in a fabric store. I became aware that the soft, cushy items being marketed for cribs (pillows, crib bumpers, baby quilts) were dangerous to babies.

YOu can google 'crib bedding danger' or similar and read all about it.

Re: names: I have a friend whose sister adopted a girl from Guatemala and changed her name to Taylor. In my opinion this was equivalent to hanging a sign on the child that says 'This is what I have instead of the white, middle-class daughter I had always dreamed of.'

Names have cultural and historical associations, and I think a child from Ethiopia should have a name that seems somehow Ethiopian. But neither do you have to retain a name that seems ugly to English speakers.

Robyn, if you have custody of your grandchild, I think you should change her name. It is cruel to name a child Kali.