My friend and mentor of opera fame, Suzanne Gorder, gave me sage advice when I first began to prepare for performing and for joining sessions and song circles. She told me it is always better to leave people wanting to hear you sing more rather than feeling they wish you would 'quit already'. Once I started participating in a session, I really was aware of how good this advice is. I have observed groups that have worked very well when the members are aware of sharing the spotlight. These good experiences come from either consciously going around a circle asking each person in turn what they want to sing or play, or just having a mix of people who are aware of the quiet ones and bringing them out to start a tune or song or perform a solo. I now am aware that people cringe when they see the person walk in who plays and sings too loud, who jumps in and takes over the session at every chance, and that it was good advice Suzanne gave me regarding knowing when to be quiet and when to quit.

We have covered this subject to some extent in session etiquette threads, but I think it applies to other areas of group activity as well. It applies to the internet in e-lists and forums when a little reserve (think it, then don't post it, ... write it, then delete it) can keep a person from diluting the impact of their voice by over-using it.

Any other thoughts on the subject of "less is more"?
From my experience, understanding this concept goes a long way to promote smooth sailing in a group.

Alice