As "Deep Thought" would say, "Hmm . . . tricky."

I'd say that if you can be comfortable with the idea, both you and P-Vine be friends to the woman to whatever degree you feel reasonably comfortable with, but should anything "untoward" manifest itself, a straightforward but polite and gentle rebuff of unwanted attentions from P-Vine would be in order (with you being "blithely unaware"). This would offer the potential of maintaining the friendship while drawing a line, but without being a total rejection of her as a person.

My wife and I have a couple of friends who are gay. One whom we see fairly often is a member of our writers' group. The group gets together once a month to read our deathless prose and/or poetry and to offer mutual suggestions, support, and encouragement. He is in a stable relationship with another man. We consider he and his partner as part of the group of "orphans," people we know who have no family to speak of in this area, whom we often entertain in our home on holidays.

My response, should any gay friend or acquaintance come on to me (which is unlikely because Barbara and I are pretty obviously happily married), would be to thank them for the compliment, but politely point out that I am happily married, and that I do not share their particular sexual orientation. Thank you, but no thanks.

I have never had to play this particular tape, but I think it would take care of the situation should it ever arise.

Don Firth