Bobert -

I get maybe seven or eight emails per year from "friends" - and they never answer back to my replies so I'd have to say I'm inexperienced with respect to deluge-style correspondence.

LiK does, however, have one female friend (probably in her 50s) who has sent her more than 1,734 emails in the past four years. (I know this because I back up and archive our emails. She deletes quite a few things from this "friend" before I get around to archiving, but that's what was in the last backup.)

This woman is extraordinarily dangerous because she's a loose-cannon who's also married to a fundy preacher. Most of the emails are "inspirational" cut-n-paste stuff in bulk mailings addressed to Lin and 30 or 40 of her other friends.

Occasionally when the two of them actually have something to talk about though, a dozen emails in a day - each - for a few days in a row - is not too uncommon.

The "clingers" that one encounters quite frequently are "less than optimally adapted" to normal socializing; but our experience with the dozen or so "open" homosexuals of both sexes that we have known is that, if anything, they are much less likely than heterosexuals (especially males) to have inappropriate sexual fixations on another - especially on another new acquaintance. There's far too much risk (from people who "aren't biased, but ...") and most of those we've known have very specific partners to whom they are very much (and very exclusively) faithful, even when not "into a relationship."

You may have a "nut case" at hand, but normal responses to any "disagreeable" behavior should be sufficient to form the relationship into something tolerable or to terminate it if appropriate.

If treated like the kind of person you (or P-Vine) would like to associate with, she'll either be that sort of person, once she sees what you expect - or will give up and go away.

John