I have vowed never to allow another three colored cat into my home. They are all "Princesses". In fact, when Alice had her kittens, the last one born was a long haired calico that people fought over. They could not understand why I chose the rather non-descript Freddie. HEH HEH
luckily, she was placed with an elderly cosmetologist who had prepared (you won't believe this!) a velvet bed for the damn kitten. Professional grooming, onliest kitty status. That is the only place for a calico.
That said --your girl really needs a lot of alone time and reassurance that she really is the most important head kitty in the house. That and the plant mister. Don't toss her out Bobert. It's not her fault.
Alice the Pisser is a three colored cat. SIGH Everyone loves her and her antics but no one takes her. One on one attention keeps her almost bearable.