My thoughts on middle aged dating { I got married for the first time at age 45 } are as follows:

1 - Where ever you go - there you are.
2 - It's alot easier for women to find the qualities in you that are lovable once you've found out those lovable parts for yourself.
3 - In other words - you have to love yourself in an appropriate way before someone else can love you
4 - The Swat Team of Love is not going to bust down your door and find you.
5 - Most women prefer well groomed men. Check you breath, underarms and your shoes. They say a lot about you.
6 - Most women like good listeners. Practice saying: "UM", "AH" and "Oh" a lot. Then practice again. Don't offer advice unless asked.
7 - The perfect woman doesn't exist. Neither does the perfect man.
8 - 99.999 percent of women like getting flowers. But not right away. On a first date it could scare some women off.
9 - Don't reveal too much too soon. Leave a little bit of mystery.
10 - Don't say you're going to do something and not follow through. Don't say you're going to call if you don't mean it. Women keep track of these things and they don't forget stuff. Ever.

Overall a relationship with a member of the opposite sex can be the most fulfilling thing you can ever do. But like anything else it takes work. You'll get out what you put into it.