Nowadays I have become more considerate and as I have a million other ways to express myself I allow myself to see beyond obvious predictable areas of focus and I relate to people on more varied and interesting ground.

Well-said. One thing to point out: the WHITE world has by and large been the big, bad oppressors and it is them using the N word and others which continues the bullying/denigrating/etc. to minorities which effects whole communities. With a few exceptions, white humans have enslaved and debased those of more colour and it is NOT okay to use that kind of language in a day to day matter of fact way. Maybe in the military where it is "equal opportunity for denigrating nicknames" or between friends who are comfortable with such, but not in a general way. I don't agree with the video of Harry being released and causing such a furor, but I also don't agree that it should be condoned or shrugged off. A little education about the effect of such never goes amiss, imo.

An example which is non-racial: some girl friends and I have claimed the word "cunt" to take away the hateful way in which it is sometimes used and because we can joke comfortably with one another about it. We don't do it often, but still we do. Now, how would any of you feel if you found your mother/sister/daughter/etc. was being called a cunt as a daily off-hand reference?