Janie, I have a couple of follow-up thoughts to your remarks.

I've met a few men who wanted to date, and on a very casual basis, like JUST a shared meal and a good conversation, I enjoy it, but when the pressure is on for more I bow out.

I'm another 20-year veteran before the divorce, and I'm still raising kids. The prospect of adding another human who needs care and attention, even if it is a grown-up man, to my busy schedule doesn't interest me right now. Why? Because I'd lose a chunk of the time that I have for myself. I figure that until I'm ready to share that time, or the allocation shifts as my kids grow up and move out, I'm not ready for the attention one must invest in a relationship.

SRS