I ache for you, I really do. As Peter said, it's a road we've all walked and that doesn't help one little bit does it? He's also right when he says, you're better off playing the game and taking a gamble than standing on the sidelines and watching......and that doesn't help either ,does it? Don't let it make you bitter and mistrustful or this person has taken far more than your temporary peace of mind and it sounds to me like they don't deserve even that little bit of you.