They're not necessarily deceiving themselves, Richard, they just have a number of differing concerns in mind, that's all. Everyone else isn't the same as you.

It's a unique case in every case. This is confirmed by the fact that different people react differently to the same basic incident (on a physical level). Yes, they all go through a basically very similar physical experience (which is what you appear to be talking about), but they interpret it differently in an emotional sense. How they interpret it is on the basis of belief and emotion and memory tied to emotion.

As you grow up, you absorb emotional impressions. They are what underlies your belief system. You will use your belief system to interpret the meaning of a physical experience.

Your belief system is clearly different from mine, for instance, so our interpretations of sex are quite different...although on a purely physical level, it's basically the same scenario for both of us. You are attracted to someone. You get an erection. You place it in slot "V" and move it back and forth until reaching orgasm. Big deal, eh? ;-) When put in merely physical terms, it sounds about as exciting as tightening a loose bolt on the snowblower...all just a matter of applied torque and friction, nothing more... ;-)

It's the non-physical aspects of sex, Richard, that raise the prosaic physical act itself (which any idiot can manage) into a truly sublime experience. (grin)

And you think I'm deceiving myself? Well, fine, mate. I think you're deceiving yourself too, but I prefer my way to yours, so I think I'll stick with it.