"For me it's not about kindness and faith being threatening. It's having been almost pinned down on a couple of occasions by Christians who feel a need to convert others to their own way of thinking. One of these was a relative, a situation that became extremely embarrassing as she was not going to take no for an answer. After that sort of experience one becomes extremely chary about letting even a foot get in the door."

I understand that, jacqui. I've never had that experience - in the past I've turned offers down and that was that, even when the Jehovah's Witnesses came a-callin' they've always taken "no" for an answer. No problem.

My experiences (certainly in recent years) have all been positive and beneficial. I understand and sympathise with those who haven't been so lucky.