This might get deleted but I needed to be anonymous to protect the guilty.

You know, from the git go, I disliked the way my long-time partner kissed - felt like I was being sucked into a black hole. Tried to talk about it and do some coaching about what I would prefer, all to no avail. So I avoided the person's kisses, which really cut down on displays of affection that were not directly headed for sexual consumation.

Next time round, if there is one, I'll give more weight to those kisses.