" know a woman who has much the same basic problem...she tries to "have a serious relationship" and issues develop. In her case, I am 82.537% sure that she tries to gently 'adjust' the habits of her intended partner....for his own good, of course. She is a very nice, giving, talented lady who has lived alone for many years, developing her clear ideas on everything from politics to what to have for dinner. I think she has just about decided that your way works best, Little Hawk." Bill D

Wow! My guess is that there are many more like her, Bill. In my case, after I fully realized some years back that I didn't even want to meet the "right" man, my life greatly simplified itself. In my early life I did enough that I'd just as soon not ever do it again.

The occasional dissatisfaction with my life now is much, much better than was my frequent dissatisfaction with my life then.

Luckily not everyone feels as I do, or humankind itself would end :)