Ummm...Keith A...

"That's OK. They don't do that."

What planet have you been living on? Or are you just saying they are more careful how they express it these days? Many denominations most certainly DO have foreign missionary outreach:

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You can read for days by following links.

Here's one complaining that not enough attention is given to missions right here:

"American churches give tens of thousands of dollars every year to mission projects in every continent except North America. Church members will travel thousands of miles to Quito, Ecuador, to see Radio Station HCJB that they have been helping to support, but they feel no obligation to support WMBI in Chicago. The only difference is that one represents foreign missions and the other home missions, and foreign missions usually win out.

OF COURSE many of them also do some 'good works' in the process, but the major focus for many always was "spreading the gospel". In the 1860s thru the 1940s, it was not even too thinly disguised as "charity".

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As to justifying wars & other violence, you gave a couple of the best examples. I heard the argument 40 years ago that 'it wasn't really about religion'. That is just a rationalization....a sincere one, perhaps....but many IN those conflicts don't bother to do the rationalization.
   All over the world, even where it is not the official position of a religious group to defeat and denigrate another group, many members think exactly that way. Look at the conflicts in India/Pakistan/Bangladesh among religions & sects. Right here...5 minutes drive from me, the Mormons (LDS) had to "cleanse" their entire church a few years ago when some unbelievers managed to get access to 'forbidden areas'. Is this less disturbing because the LDS didn't seek to do violence to the trespassers? I guess so...but...

Sorry, Keith A., but the very tenets of many (notice, I did NOT say all) religions and sects demand that followers assume that 'others' are following the 'wrong' path. The only variation is in how ummmm.... stridently...they express their opinions.