I'm sure everything you say about your own case is true, Barry, but there are several points regarding this specific case--and that is what we are, in theory, discussing.

Main point is that the woman in this case did not herself object as strenuously as you would have done.

She declined, and that should have been an end to it.

Secondary point is that many, probably the majority, would actually have had a positive reaction to her question. Even if they had themselves not been interested-- ( as my Jan--who sees herself as an atheist-- was not, for instance)-- they would have seen the offer as an example of human caring--and, in the words of both Kendall and Jan, positive energy. And both have stated directly:   "Any positive energy is good".

Therefore, it was reasonable for the nurse to ask the question. And to take no for an answer.   Both of which she did.

This incident should never have become an issue.