quick update -- it remains a mess--they are barely speaking and the whole issue of the house is still up in the air due to the amount of work needed on it. My stress levels are through the roof -- she seems to be floating in a place by herself where no one can reach her -- and we have a friend of hers and her 2.5 year old stepson staying here for a while while my daughter floats between here and somewhere else (not her house). There are not many situations that nonplus me -- this one has.......