The problem as I see it: Men are graduates of the "John Wayne School of Emotional Growth". When frustrated we're taught to handle the problem ourselves. We not taught to talk to others to see if our frustrations are valid ot not. We're not taught to seek out sounding boards. Did Dirty Harry seek counciling? Did John Wayne? Rambo? No - and we're told that's who we should model ourselves after - the guys in the "Die Hard" movies. Our heros are the guys who buck the system and stand up to a flipping army with just our own resolve and a couple of six shooters. Our enemies just fall over and then go away. But real life is a little different - isn't it? And the 20 bad guys with machine guns always miss- don't they?

We have to start re-educating our sons. Until we bring them up in a different manner it won't matter if guns are available or not. We have to teach them to not want to pick up a gun under the circumstances we're talking about. We have to teach them a better way to feel. And to understand that other people in the world - esp women - are something other than targets.

If you think you're a hammer - you'll see the rest of the world as a nail.