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Thread #120096   Message #2612110
Posted By: Stilly River Sage
15-Apr-09 - 09:43 PM
Thread Name: Obit: Seattle's John Ross, Mudcatter, April 2009
Subject: RE: Obit: Seattle's John Ross, Mudcatter, April 09
Mary, for those of us who aren't part of his family, if we are to help, it ends up being a package deal. Whoever deals with the estate deals with the burial, that's how it works in most cases. So if someone is going to step in, the most prolonged and detailed part of the process is the estate. That person needs to know what they're doing with all of the research and whatever he collected.

John is at peace. If he was in pain, it is over. His friends can do the best for him by making sure his life's work is dealt with efficiently and respectfully. If family isn't there to step forward, then things will be taken care of more slowly, but they will be taken care of. If, as you think, John was a secular Jew, then I think burial versus cremation would not have been something he would get overwrought about.

My two cents.