Mary, your concern and time spent helping are admirable and you have made it quite clear. As you are focussed on that aspect, others are more likely to be able to help in other ways. As Don said, there's much at stake concerning John's collection. IMO, it sounds as though John wouldn't really be too concerned about what happens to his physical body, but more his "body of work"...i.e. music collection which is his legacy. I am sure things will get sorted out.