"because your tone to me is nothing like friendly or helpful."
Sorry Virginia - it was not my intention to be either unfriendly or unhelpful to you - any more than I am sure it was not yours to me when you called me a 'woolly jumper' and told me not to express my reservations as they were 'devisive' (pretty sure it was you, but if I am wrong about that - apologies in anticipation and I take it all back).
These arguments inevitably become fraught and passionate, which I always take to be an indication of the importance in which they are held by those participating.
Can I second Emma B's admiration of Jayto's excellent posting.
Jim Carroll