The honesty is a big deal, and a lot of the time HOW you say it can tender WHAT you say. You aren't comfortable, not in your element, would rather be having orthodondic surgery...point is, you don't have to be cruel to get the idea across.

As far as re-bounding goes, it doesn't have to be one, you know..*bg* If you approach it like it's doomed to fail, that this relationship is only transitory, 10 to 1 it will be.

I guess the only thing I can add to this wealth of information, is have FUN. Something had to attract you to the person you are contemplating. Plan your first date as a short one, meet for coffee or something(no strings under the moonlight that way). And even if it turns out that you'd rather chew glass than date them again, at least you know, and it's only an hour or so out of your life.

I didn't read the rules book, but have gathered these from life and friends:
1)Women can call men, drive the car, and pay
2) always wear comfortable shoes, you never know when you'll wander, or need a fast get-a-way
3) expect then to be just as nervous as you are
4) friends first is always best
5) treasure the time you have with other folks, it doesn't have to be moonlight and gondola rides to be memorable

Take a deep breath luv, and dive in.
~Elle