That's the stage you need to reach, Janie, with your ex--you'll know things are smoothed over when he brings plants or offers to let you come dig them. It can sometimes take a long time to get to that point, though.

Achillea millefolium (yarrow) was all over when I was a kid, and I've seen it in Texas and New York--great smell, distinctive. It's a white garden variety wildflower (if you'll pardon the oxymoron!)

I think I'm going to go a little crazy with the old seed packs this year. I have several places where I'll have bare soil. Some tried and true favorites, like the state fair zinnias (they actually do better when I plant them in July, and when they get big in the fall the look great and aren't all covered with powdery mildew yet) and various plants I'd like for the color but who knows if they'll grow. I'll sow them and see what happens. :) (Am I getting wild and crazy in my middle age?)

SRS