Just jumped in on this thread, after avoiding it for a while -- slow day, I guess. I'm an American male who divorced after 14 years of marriage, and has been very happily married to his "rebound" for almost three years. It works for me.

Honesty seems to be the most consistent theme in this thread. I'll go along with that; the last thing you want to do is attract someone by pretending to be something other than yourself, and then be scared that he or she will discover the truth. Keep in mind that the kind of fish you catch depends on the kind of bait you use (wasn't there a song about that?). If you are honest in your dealings with people, you will attract others who value honesty. If you are false or superficial, you will attract others who are false or superficial. Speaking for myself only (I can't claim to the the Universal American), I find nothing so attractive as honesty, intelligence, creativity of thought and action, and a sense of humor. And I would never think badly of a prospective mate who confessed to being sexually attracted to me (although she might get a few points knocked off on the "intelligence" scale). Good luck.