Tom.
I understand that you may feel it would be better re making a living for you and yours, not upsetting the ones who may be in a position to hire you or pass on the good word to others who may do so.
No I am not one of the ones talented enough to earn a living through music.(Talented or connected or born into according to your POV)
The phrase "have the honour of knowing' what we risk" that you used,(and I hope I am not taking it unfairly out of context.)
Just looks to me as if you could be saying that if someone is being a bit of a prat,or worse,but may be in a "position of power" then you would prefer to have the option of not taking them up on whatever the affront may be. Fine and up to you .
Another way of reading the same point of view is that if a person is not in agreement with you,and the power lies in your hands then....?
I believe a bully to be the one who uses their power to act against others purely by the fact of the superior power they can bring to bear.(Yogi?)
If someone is wrong they are wrong.
If someone is using their anonymity to spoil your chances of income or happiness that is wrong,and would have thought our moderators would attempt to sort that out for us.But if we are all gonna accept bad behaviour,and keep quiet just in case they are in that position of power?
Got no axe to grind with you mate and really is none of my business
but this is available for all to read so is sort of out in public.
Can also say that having heard you perform,you seem to have all the talent and application needed to make a go of things in music.