I spent yesterday at the hospital with my Dad. I came home to find this and I am beyond grief stricken. As has been stated so eloquently by so many, to be a friend with these wonderful people is to be a part of a very large family of friends. Caroline and Sandy embrace you with loving arms and just pull you in. In my own case, they have become something we call "chosen family". I have sat in that wonderful house on Sharon Mountain, over a cup of coffee and watched Caroline dote on Linnea, and saw the pride in her eyes as she spoke of her grandkids. Knowing that this searing pain is something that they will have to bear, and that there is nothing that those of us who love them can do to ease it, is one of the worst feelings ever. What I can say to, beloved "chosen family" is that I share your grief, and you are in my constant and loving thoughts and prayers.
David, and family, I have always said I can tell a great deal about people by the children they raise. In the case of your parents and grandparents, it is clear they have raised exceptional children and grandkids. Look to the love they have given you for the strength you will need in the coming days, weeks, and months. And know that you carry with you the love and sympathy of all of us that your family has touched.