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Thread #121822   Message #2664467
Posted By: Crow Sister (off with the fairies)
25-Jun-09 - 01:14 PM
Thread Name: BS: Sexual Infidelity
Subject: RE: BS: Sexual Infidelity
Nice story Katlaughing.

I may have missed Janies point, but essentially I guess I would contend that it is a religiously informed societal indoctrination which results in unrealistic *expectations* of eternal monogomy, that is to blame for so many failed marriages - rather than infidelity per se.

Otherwise, I am more than happy to see preachy politicians get caught out in their hypocricy.

Infidelity isn't a form of dysfunction requiring rectification IMHO, it is a natural behavioural trait amongst human beings, which requires honest aknowledgement and broader societal acceptance. What we need to do is rectify our collective assumptions about what is, and what is not, reasonable and realistic to expect within a long term relationship. A slow haul to be sure considering the amount of preaching that we are all subject to everday.

I would also contend that eliminating the 'taboo' element of extramarital affairs, *could* potentially greatly disempower their draw. But that is nothing more than a presumption based on the notion that people can be especially excited by things that are covert and taboo..