Janie, I agree with you, IF that is a promise which has been made, both parties should keep it. In our case, we are neither church people nor Christian, though we are spiritual.

I find the john q. public comment from NPR as disgusting as you do and I do NOT advocate anyone cheating on their partner UNLESS both parties have an agreement and even that takes a great deal of maturity, confidence, and trust. I don't think there are many who are predisposed in our society to handle it that way.

It is obvious that our society still has different standards for men and women...men are expected to stray a little, women are not supposed to even have a libido. THAT disgusts me....that we still have such suppositions in a supposedly enlightened age.