Thread creep alert - why does it matter who's what on the Mudcat? I've never understood that... I write as someone who is frequently mistaken for various genders I'm not. My reaction tends to be nil - I don't care, I don't consider it an insult to be grouped with a different sexuality, so... just curious....and if you do know what I am, just continue to use gender-neutral pronouns, it bugs me that it matters to anyone what gender anyone is when the 2 people involved are not attempting any mating acts. It shouldn't. Vive la différence!