There's an ugly side and a beautiful side in most religious traditions. You'll find either one if you look for it. The kindly and loving find the beautiful side. The judgemental and cruel find the ugly side. They both use it in the way that comes naturally to them.

Kind of like a kitchen knife. You can use it to cut vegetables and make a delicious meal for the hungry...or you can use it to cut someone's throat and then take their wallet.

The problem is not in the knife. The problem is in the attitude of the one who uses it.