Life should not be difficult.
I agree with the thought behind your message Don T. to which I add the following.
If something is there you can choose to look at it, if it is not there, you can not! The latter leaves you with no choice.
Choice is important and is one of the reasons (please correct me if I am wrong) Mudcat exists and is successful.
It is also a way to assist people to grow up and mature.
True freedom can only follow choice.