A long time alcoholic told me once, while sober, that his drinking would never stop until everybody left him alone to deal with the problem.

He said that his underlying problem was that he could not deal with their problems and he drank to forget their problems.

He lost everything and everybody. Job, wife, kids... all of it.

And he is now one of the most successful and happiest people I know.

And he helps a lot of alkies and addicts get better... it is the reward of this that makes him most happy and keeps him from the drink.

I have no words of wisdom, but, maybe "getting out" is actually part of the solution, for the alcohlic?